Many people look at sex position during pregnancy as the right one and the wrong one. And many of us have this idea that there is one right (or safe) way to have sex during pregnancy.

Nothing is further from the truth. There are infinite safe ways to have sex during pregnancy and to find pregnant sex positions, depending on what kind of sex you want to have. Another problem with this line of thinking is that it is very rigid (no pun intended). Great sex requires flexibility of thought, and a willingness to try new things when the old ones aren’t working anymore.

Both partners are physically comfortable. As a general rule, a good sex position for pregnant sex is one where:

• The position allows for the kind of sex and physical contact you want to have

There are some who suggest that during a pregnant sex position both partners should also avoid putting pressure on the uterus, or a partner’s full weight on a pregnant belly.

Figuring out pregnancy sex positions requires some creativity, a sense of humor, and often lots of pillows. It may also mean abandoning penetration if it isn’t working, and finding other ways to please each other and please yourself.

The edge of the bed sex position (The Dr. Ruth and Dr. Amos pregnancy sex position) offers many possibilities for greater comfort during pregnancy. You can lie on the bed (on your side, or briefly on your back) at the edge of the bed and your partner can be off the bed, either on their knees or standing up. Combined with the rear entry position, you can be off the bed on your knees (with a pillow underneath them) and rest your upper torso on the bed, with your belly off the bed. If you’re looking for some ideas to jumpstart all that creativity, you might want to develop your own positions by exploring the sex positions game. If that seems like too much work, the following sex positions are generally considered to be more comfortable as your (or your partners) body changes during pregnancy:

• The spooning sex position can be a very comfortable pregnancy sex position as there is no pressure on your abdomen and you have lots of movement. Your partner can position themselves behind you at different angles to allow for penetration. Avoid lying on your right side in this position.
• The side by side pregnant sex position allows for more equal physical contact than spooning, but penetration can be a bit trickier. You can cross your legs over each other and this may help. As with spooning, this position can be very comfortable as no one is feeling the weight of the other partner’s body.
• The woman on top pregnant sex position offers the benefit of you being in control of the depth and angle of penetration. Later in the pregnancy, you may find this position more tiring, and if balance is a concern you may prefer a lying down position, but others find this the ideal position.
• The rear entry sex position is said to be good for g-spot stimulation and can be a comfortable change as it’s a position you aren’t in that often unless you’re doing yoga. This position can either be done on a bed or modified as a version of the next sex position.